Lessons Learned

Every situation is lesson learned not a burden earned. The trials and tribulations that endure, are not presented to us to bring us down and to break us. Every good & bad relationship is placed in front of us to help us develop all the proper skills used in marriage but if you choose not to learn the lesson your on your way to another "bad" relationship. One of the hardest things to do in a situation is to step outside of it and recognize what you might've done wrong. Once you realize what you did wrong the first and hardest step is to forgive yourself. In this book I am reading entitled The Shack they talk about the importance of relationships and how even though our greatest hurt may come from relationships...so does our greates happiness. You cannot be estranged and afraid to love whether it is friends family or your significant other, a life without love is a life without life.

Challenge What Controls You

Something that I find myself doing now more and more is challenging myself, whether it be mentally or physically. I like to push myself and step outside of things that I feel comfortable doing. I call that RAGE (Rage Against The Establishment). I recently found out a friend of mine is afraid of the dark, I told her to be careful in telling me that because I am looking for the first oppurtunity to make her challenge her fear and realize that it does not control her. Martin Luther King Jr. once said "The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." Do not be afraid to challenge yourself and also you can not be afraid of failing failure is simply an oppurtunity to gain better knowledge before trying again.

This is a poem I recieved that talks about challenging yourself and your abilities:

The Comfort Zone Poem (author unknown)

I used to have a comfort zone

where I knew I couldn't fail,

The same four walls of busy work

were really more like a jail

I longed so much to do the things

I'd never done before,

But I stayed inside my comfort zone

and paced the same old floor

I said it didn't matter

that I wasn't doing much,

I said I didn't care for things

like diamonds or furs and such

I claimed to be so busy

with the things inside my zone,

But deep inside I longed for

something special of my own

I couldn't let my life go by

just watching others win,

I held my breath and stepped outside

to let the change begin

I took a step and with new strength

I'd never felt before,

I kissed my comfort zone good bye

and closed and locked the door

If you are in a comfort zone

afraid to venture out,

Remember that all winners

were at one time filled with doubt

A step or two and words of praise

can make your dreams come true

Greet your future with a smile,

success is there for you!